As that great prophet, poet, songster and musical genius John Lennon wrote "There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you are meant to be". This is effectively a Vedic philosphy transcribed into modern day language via the medium of song, it is a wonderful way to describe life and by acceptance of this fact you can deal with anything that life throws at you.
Life is an wonderfully complex dance and we're simply part of the chorus line, albeit a part that has the opportunity if we take a wrong step to influence the whole show and/or the lives of those who are involved in and/or watching that show. Let's examine that statement, but first I think this short video goes a long way to explaining the concept and is definitely worth a watch.
Whilst there are many things that appear to us to be wrong, in universal terms there is no such thing. Right or wrong are essentially constructed from our particular education system, country of origin, family situation, life experiences, etc... the point is right or wrong is a personal perspective and is usually based upon the memory of something from the past.
In universal terms there is no right or wrong, but there simply is. This means that whatever happens, whether you like it or not, is part of the bigger plan (Masterplan as Noel Gallagher might say). Let's look at an example. A person is born in a dark cave and has never seen light. To that person darkness is all they know, there is nothing to compare with. Once they see light, let's say through a crack in the wall, their perception of the world has changed forever. They now have a different reference point, one that in this case is the opposite of what they always thought life was.
From this point they now know there's more to life than the darkness, but don't necessarily know what that life is or how it could affect them. None of us every truly does either, life is a mystery that unfolds in front of us and is influenced by the choice we make in this moment.
The world we live on is so complex, mostly due to the behaviour of those we meet, that you cannot ever truly know whether something is happening for good or bad reasons. Something as simple as a butterfly flapping it's wings might, to us at our level, seem inconsequential but it certainly has an impact that we cannot know as we are too far removed from that impact to ever (at our current level of understanding), be able to fathom the consequence of that one simple action.
"The Butterfly Effect: This effect grants the power to cause a hurricane in China to a butterfly flapping its wings in New Mexico. It may take a very long time, but the connection is real. If the butterfly had not flapped its wings at just the right point in space/time, the hurricane would not have happened."
So back to the point. If we accept that where we are is where we are meant to be, then there's nothing to fear but fear itself. We may 'choose' not to like where we are at that point, for instance if we're ill, upset or otherwise not happy, however our reaction to the situation we find ourselves in is personal to us. Let's look at another example.
Nelson Mandela was held in awful circumstances for many years, in prison in South Africa. He was not alone as there were many other prisoners in that same prison, being held for the same 'crime', similar age and background. However Mandela kept hope alive, he recognised where he was and where we was going. He stayed positive and worked towards the day he must have somehow knew would come, i.e. his freedom. History tells us he did the right thing.
You manifest the outcome you believe can occur, believe hope is lost and it is, believe there's hope and there is. Don't give up, remember everything passes. Remember also that change isn't necessarily bad, it's just different and is totally affected by your perception of that change.
So whenever a situation arises you're uncomfortable with remember these key points:
Whilst you may not understand the reason, there is a reason for what is happening to you.
You are, at that moment, exactly where you are supposed to be.
It's how you react to the moment you're in that changes the outcome of your next action.
Everything changes, given enough time, simply keep hope alive and soon your change will come.